This is a guest post from the folks at This is Where We Work. This is a guest post from the folks at This is Where We Work. A lot of people have an idea of what they want to do for a living. They have dreams of a certain lifestyle, business, or career. They want to be successful. They want to be respected. They want to be loved. They want to be happy. That’s why they don’t have children.
This is the best way I know to get people to think about the idea of child support, which in my mind is the biggest financial decision they will ever make in their lives. It’s a decision about when, what, and how much to pay for child support. It’s a decision about where to pay it, and when.
This is in my opinion the simplest way to help people understand that child support is not a thing they make up on the spot. Just like paying a bill, or buying a cup of coffee, or getting an Uber ride, child support is a decision. And as such, it should be a decision for you. In an ideal world, you would make this decision with your partner, or a trusted friend, or a lawyer.
In my opinion, this is about the third time in my life that I’ve made a payment for child support. I paid my first child support when I was 17. I thought having a child was the next big thing. I was wrong. I was wrong because I knew then that child support was not a thing that I made up. I paid my second child support when I was 19. Again, I was wrong. I was wrong because I had no idea what to do then.
Paying child support is always a bad idea. Not only because it’s the last thing you should do, but the last thing you should do. It’s a good idea to discuss this with your lawyer, and ask if you can do it yourself. But I don’t think that having a child is even on the table. I think that you are looking at a situation where you are paying to be the family’s bread winner rather than making it a financial decision.
Child support is not a financial decision, its a relationship decision. Child support is a way for a parent to provide a child with more than just survival. For example, if you have a parent who is on disability and your child is not able to work because they have a disability, then you are not providing the child with what they deserve. I don’t think you should end it by picking up the tab for every penny spent on child support.
The whole point of child support is that a parent (or a court) has determined that a child is not a burden to the family. When I was a child I had a very supportive mother who put in work, paid for my education, and took care of me. When I began working and making enough money for my own needs, it was very easy for me to keep track of my monthly child support payment.
I’m not really sure how to interpret this, but it seems like parents should not just pick up the tab for every penny spent on child support.
Yes, they should not, but they can and sometimes do. I don’t know what it is about child support that makes it so appealing. I’ve never seen a child support payment that I could not pay. I’ve seen child support payments that were so small in comparison to what was needed that it was almost laughable. It’s that “I don’t know what it is about child support that makes it so appealing that I take it” part that bothers me.
If you are trying to keep up with your child support payments for a child you are trying to support, then you might find it easy to forget your child support payments. However, if you are trying to put the child support payments on autopilot, you may find it difficult to remember that you are not on autopilot.