The biggest struggle our new parents face is adopting a child from a foreign country. It’s not that difficult to find a baby sitter for the first few weeks and months after you move to a new country. I know I spent most of my first few months at my new apartment in tears. I wanted to move out and get a new apartment, but I knew I couldn’t do that alone.
The problem is, there is just no way to find a baby sitter for a family of 4 who will actually help you take care of them. If you are lucky enough to have a relative or friend with a child of their own, you can find a sitter for your family, but in my experience very few people do. For one thing, this tends to be a very expensive and time-consuming task.
The most common problem is that the person you are looking for has kids of their own, and they may not be your own. In my personal experience, most women who are looking to adopt a child from afghanistan are quite concerned about the fact that their families wont be willing to take on the responsibility of caring for their child.
The good news is that there are some excellent programs that allow you to find and adopt a child. And we always recommend being as specific as possible when you’re trying to find a family that can take on the responsibility of taking care of a member of your family. Many people will not accept the idea that their child is theirs and need to have them taken care of, and this is really hard to do when you don’t know if the person you are looking for is your child’s biological parent.
In an ideal situation, you will have done your due diligence, and you will have found a good agency that will provide you with all the information you need to help you find and adopt. But in the real world there’s always a risk that you will not find a good agency, that the agency you do find will not be the right one, or that the agency you find will fail to find a child.
That risk is real and is what makes adopting from an afghanistan so difficult. I know that I have had to take a lot of extra steps just to get through the process. The only way I knew my child was my own was when I was able to write down all the details that I had to explain to other agencies. Even then, I could tell that the person I was looking for wasn’t their child.
I’m not sure why I had to write down everything. I just felt that I needed to explain some of my background to get more parents to want to adopt me. But I’m glad I did because I feel like I’ve had a better understanding of what I’m doing. I’ll always be a little more guarded in giving out my information but I’ll always be a part of it, and I’ll always be able to tell when I’m not going to be adopted.
I think we need to be more aware and ask ourselves why we feel this way about having an adopted child. I think that if we can’t understand why we’re feeling this way, we won’t be able to understand how to change it. Because while most of us want to adopt our own child, we all have our own reasons why we’re not. I had to do things I wasn’t comfortable with to have the opportunity to be adopted.
In the US, we don’t have a legal right of choice to adopt. It’s not the law. We do, however, have the right to be considered for adoption by a loving family. Unfortunately, in the US, we often wait until the child turns 6 before the child is considered for adoption. So, if you were to adopt your child in Iran, you would be waiting until the child was 6 for the adoption process.
